Start with creating more AWARENESS and this will start to prevent more harm from being done. I’m sure almost everyone may have heard of the word Bullying, but I want to ask you a question.. Have you ever personally witnessed someone being bullied before?What, if anything, did you do/ say about it?
There are many types of bullying and we are going to get into that a little bit later..
For right now, I want you to close your eyes and imagine the saddest time you’ve ever felt. Imagine the sadness, loneliness, and sorrow of that moment.
THAT is exactly what someone who is constantly bullied feels like..
All the time.
What we are going to discuss in this article today is going to help teach you exactly how and why this happens and what YOU can do to put an end to it.
Bullying by definition is one or more individuals who try to hurt and/or scare another person on purpose. It doesn’t matter if it’s one time or repetitious. Most times, bullying happens over and over. Bullying happens because some people feel better about themselves only when they make others feel bad -not surprisingly this comes form the "bully" having low self esteem.
How many of you have ever been teased by your brother, sister or friend when playing together? This is normal when you are both doing it in a fun and playful way and it is not intended to hurt the other person.
When teasing becomes hurtful, unkind, and unwanted, it crosses the line into bullying. It usually occurs more than one time so it is important to identify so it can be stopped.
Types of Bullying:
Sometimes bullying is easy to notice – hitting or calling names. Other times it’s not so obvious. What are some other examples of bullying?
Emotional - This is the most common form of bullying. Bullying that hurts someone's feelings on purpose. Here are just a few
- Spreading bad rumors about someone
- Keeping certain people out of the “group
- Getting people to gang up on someone to intimidate them
Verbal - Using words in a negative way to intentionally hurt someone.
- Name calling
- Mimic (for example: making fun of the way someone talks)
Physical - Bullying that hurts someone's body or damages their possessions.
- Hitting, Shoving, Tripping someone on purpose
- Stealing (personal belongings, games, money, lunch)
- Throwing someone’s belongings around (like books or a backpack)
2.Why do people bully others:Low Self Esteem
Bullying happens because some people feel better about themselves only when they make others feel bad. It makes them feel bigger and better when they hurt others and makes them feel important.
The bully may have their own challenges at home, which make them act out and bully others. They may not be getting attention at home or they may be bullied themselves.
They may jealous of someone so they bully that person to feel like the bigger person. They could be jealous of your personal belongings, family life or friends.
Trying to be “Cool”
Bullies usually only bully around other people. You may have an experience when someone is very nice to you one on one, but acts differently when they are in a group with other people.
3.HOW TO DEAL WITH A BULLY:
Remember, Bullying is NOT OKAY and needs to be stopped. The Bully has the problem NOT you. The bully doesn’t feel good about himself or herself, so they try to make themselves feel better or cooler by hurting you.
They only hurt the people that they think they can get away with hurting. You are not alone; the bully most likely hurts other people too.
You CAN get through this difficult situation.
Tell your parents and/or your teacher. If it is happening to you, it is happening to others and you are also helping them. Together, you can come up with the best approach to deal with the situation.
Don’t keep your emotions inside. Bullying can make us feel really bad about ourselves. All types of bullying, whether it is physical or emotional can be embarrassing. You are not alone in this situation. Please talk to your friends, parents or teachers. This can be stopped!
You can over come this-If you are constantly bullied, it is easy to feel vulnerable and trapped. The bully is the problem, NOT YOU. Don’t feel like you are being a tattle tail - Bullying should not be tolerated and they are most likely hurting others too.
Try these strategies for Bully prevention
- Ignore the bully - If you can, try your best to ignore the bully's threats. The person is trying to get attention by bringing you down. If you don’t give them the satisfaction, they may not continue to pick on you.2. Stand Up for Yourself - Rehearse the right way to respond to a tough kid (you might even use a stuffed animal or a friend as a stand in) Pretend to feel really brave and confident. Speak in a strong, firm voice -- whining or crying will only encourage a bully. Remember, they are just trying to make you feel weak.3. Use humor to diffuse the situation (Yup, I hate this shirt too).4. If the bully gets physical, you ALWAYS have the right to defend yourself.
Remember the Bully has the problem NOT you. The bully doesn’t feel good about himself or herself, so they try to make themselves feel better or cooler by hurting you. They only hurt the people that they think they can get away with hurting...
It is time to STAND UP against bullying! Stand up for yourself, stand up for others, together we can do amazing things!
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